Love & Hate

“What would happen if two scorpions were put in a ring of fire?” It is said that, if they got together and made love they would survive to live forever but if they fought they would sting and die together. Neither love nor hate could ever part them for life as their feelings would last for an eternity.

Love & Hate are the two sides of the same coin. They will always go together and be there for each other no matter what the situations or the circumstance. Understanding this is paramount as we live with it and have to know more about it. As in love one tends to oversee many a faults and shortcomings in hate we do not miss even the slightest opportunity to put someone down. So what should one do? As both these feelings are within and are as powerful as the other it becomes necessary to overcome one for the other. The need to love should never be allowed to be overcome by hate.

Why do we love? It is better understood when we know why we should not hate. The loss, the humiliation, the absence of someone, the rejection are some of the reasons why hate gains momentum over love. You could love someone and suddenly the same person can be the epicenter of hate. This is where restraint must be applied to accept and move on. A very difficult thing to do but it helps in the long run. Is it not also true that we tend to hate the ones we love most? It is because we care but what about someone who cares not? Well, he/she will carry on loving and hating and loosing precious moments in life that will never come again. Their love is a specter of convenience only to last as long as the concerned work is pending. No sooner the work is done then the love is out of the window awaiting the next customer. It’s just a trade.

How often, when we look at ourselves, we tend to feel bored and lonely. This is because we have not seen the deeper layers of our self and the needs and desires that lead us to experience the non available. This boredom and loneliness can lead to the devil in us rising to the occasion. Our feelings are sometimes so shallow that we live for the moment and refuse to see the brighter tomorrow. Love is a four letter word like any other but does that mean we should hate everyone or take our revenge for the loss we have suffered? Moving towards hate is like slowly running into quicksand only to find your inner self sinking step by step, deeper and deeper, into nothingness.

The case of the two scorpions is a case not to be taken lightly. Only when each recognizes the other and they show respect for each other can there be any semblance of love and togetherness. To fool one would be a folly and eventually you would be fooling your own self just for pride and selfish stubbornness. Can this pride ever make you what you are really capable off? Never, not in a thousand lives.

My advice to you is: Be kind and learn to accept love for the sake of one’s self esteem and self respect. We will always get what we give, an old saying, but very true.

"The first step in life is the most important one, so take it now."